Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common problem that affects many men and their partners. ED is defined as the ongoing inability to achieve or maintain an erection that is firm enough to perform sexual intercourse. It may begin in the bedroom, but it can limit partner intimacy and affect a man's self-esteem too. It is important for those who are struggling with ED to know they are not alone.
It is estimated that more than half of men over 40 suffer from some degree of ED.1 If you are struggling to achieve or maintain an erection often, it may be time to speak with an ED doctor. To get access to more information and ED treatment resources, take the ED assessment. This information can be shared with a doctor to help initiate a conversation about treatment options.
ED happens when blood flow to the penis is limited or nerves are damaged. The cause of ED may be physical, psychological, or both. Psychological causes include stress, anxiety, guilt, and depression. Physical causes include diabetes, vascular disease, side effects of medications, and prostate cancer treatment. ED can affect men of every ethnicity, age, and lifestyle.
Whatever the cause, there are available ED treatment options. Oral medications are a common first step, but they may not work for all men, or they may stop working. Other treatments include: vacuum devices, intraurethral suppositories, penile implants, or penile injections.
By 2025, an estimated 322 million men worldwide will be affected by ED.2
ED can be a difficult topic for couples to discuss. Talking openly may help couples to reduce stress and improve their intimacy and relationship. Acknowledge feelings, provide reassurance, and work through the problem, together.
ED is a common condition, but that doesn't mean that those who are affected must suffer in silence — and neither should their partners.
For partners, education about ED is helpful when supporting someone who is struggling. Awareness is a first step to learning about ED treatment options and helping a partner seek out treatment, which many men may be hesitant to do themselves. Being informed can empower both of you to take strides toward treatment, together.
Finding the right time and setting to talk about ED can make a difference. Choose a calm, private moment when you're both at ease. Turn off distractions like the TV or phones. Creating space for open communication can help foster a safe and comfortable place to talk. If your partner isn’t ready to talk with you, encourage him to speak with an ED doctor.
A man struggling with ED may pull away from intimacy with his partner. As a partner, this can be confusing and painful. You may blame yourself, question your own desirability, or worry about your relationship. These feelings are valid.
Honest conversations about each other's experiences and expectations may feel difficult at first, but talking about ED can foster closeness and strengthen your connection.
If your partner is open to talking about ED, that’s an important and encouraging step forward. From here, progress may take time. Explore options and try new approaches together. Intimacy like touching, kissing, and/or cuddling can encourage reconnection and openness. Having the ED conversation may inspire changes that support well-being, both physically and emotionally.
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